AITA for refusing to babysit after my sister demanded I stop bringing my boyfriend to family events?

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AITA for refusing to babysit after my sister demanded I stop bringing my boyfriend to family events?

I 20M have been dating my BF, Ryan 22M, for about a year.

My sister, Amanda (28F) has a 4 yearold Jack. After a family BBQ last month, Amanda pulled me aside and said “Hey just so you know it might be better if you dont bring Ryan to the next few family gatherings”

I asked her why, and she got all awkward, saying “Jack’s been asking questions about you and Ryan, and I don’t think he’s old enough to understand all that yet”. I told her we weren’t exactly putting on a Pride parade in her yard. We were literally just eating hot dogs and chatting with family. She replied “It’s just confusing for him. You know how kids are

I was mad but kept it together and said “If Ryan isn’t welcome, maybe I just won’t come either” She sighed and said I was being “dramatic”

last week Amanda called me, panicked, because her babysitter canceled. I told her I couldn’t because Ryan and I already had plans. She begged, saying she was desperate, and I finally snapped “Why do you want me babysitting Jack? What if I accidentally expose him to my terrifying gay lifestyle? God forbid he sees me and Ryan together”

Amanda blew up. She accused me of using Jack to “make a point” and said “This isn’t about Ryan. It’s about you being spiteful. Youre punishing Jack cause youre mad at me”

She told my parents, and thats when real drama started. My mum called and said I was being selfish for letting a “small disagreement” ruin my relationship with Amanda. I told her it wasn’t small and reminded her of Amanda’s comment about “confusing” Jack. Mum brushed it off saying “She’s just doing what’s best for her child”

I said“What about what’s best for me? Why do I have to hide part of my life to make her comfortable?”

My dad sided with me. He said Amanda was being narrow minded and told her “Kids aren’t confused by love theyre confused by people acting like it’s something to hide”

Amanda then put the drama into the fam group chat. my uncle said “its not homophobic to want to protect your kid from topics theyre not ready for. Why push it? This set off my cousin She said “If Jacks old enough to understand that Amanda and Mike are married, then hes old enough to understand Uncle (Me) has a boyfriend” She accused Amanda of being a hypocrite and called out my uncle too, saying “Let’s not make this about your own outdated beliefs” she also called Amanda a “stuck up bh” and my uncle called my cousin a “drama queen” my aunt chimed in on the family chat saying “I don’t agree with (Me) lifestyle, but we should still support each other” my grandmother replied “Support doesn’t mean tolerating disrespect.”

Amandas husband Mike texted me saying “Look I don’t have a issue with you or Ryan, but this is getting out of hand. Amandas just trying to avoid awkward questions from Jack, not insult you.” I told him, “Its already insulting. Would she say the same thing if I were dating a woman?” He left me on seen.

AITA?