AITA for refusing to wear a skimpy maid outfit to an “exclusive” party my friend got invited to?

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AITA for refusing to wear a skimpy maid outfit to an “exclusive” party my friend got invited to?

So I (22F) live with my friend (22F) and she recently met a guy at a beach party. She’s pretty much obsessed with him because he comes from a well known, well off family in the area and has a certain level of status associated with him. She told me they were “sort of” dating and obviously I’ve been supportive throughout it all, as a friend.

However I’ve met him a few times and I don’t exactly hold favourable opinions of him. I didn’t tell my friend because I wasn’t fully sure of my views yet and I didn’t want to be negative.

Anyway he’s throwing a party soon and invited my friend, he asked her to bring me along too. He said it was a themed party and that everyone would be assigned a character/style to wear. He sent my friend a picture of our outfits: two skimpy as hell maid costumes sprawled on a bed.

I immediately told her that I wouldn’t be wearing that s****t and especially not to a party with a bunch of strangers. Initially she thought I was kidding but then understood that I’m serious.

She said that wearing these fits isn’t a big deal at all and that I need to stop being so “prudish and serious”. I told her that it is VERY humiliating that this guy thinks it’s perfectly fine to request two women to wear that to his party (like you’re seriously asking two girls who are clearly not as rich as you to dress up as MAIDS to your party???) . I asked her if she seriously sees nothing wrong with it and she said no. She explained that he just has a weird taste and that it might be a weird rich people thing.

I told her again that I will not be wearing some skimpy ass maid costume. Not only is it embarrassing, it is especially disrespectful to me because I don’t have any sort of meaningful relationship with the guy and yet he thought it’s appropriate to include me in this request.

I told her that I won’t be wearing the clothes, won’t be going to the party and will from now on avoid her new bf altogether.

We had a massive argument and she said that I’m lame, boring and not a supportive friend. She said that instead of helping her I’m ruining everything and being a killjoy.

When she fed back to the guy that I’m refusing to participate he even asked her if getting paid for it would change my mind. That made it even WORSE. Apparently he told her that I have the right attitude (which makes no sense as I’ve been combative all this time) and that his friends would love to get to know me. The f****k.. I’m just getting angry typing this

I was pretty upset & told my dad about the situation. The party is tomorrow night and my friend decided to go alone, and she’s not really talking to me rn. Am I the a**e? Or is she? I feel strangely very guilty even though I’m standing up for my boundaries. AITA?