AITA telling my cousin he’s ugly because he keeps questioning my boyfriend’s sexuality

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AITA telling my cousin he’s ugly because he keeps questioning my boyfriend’s sexuality

I am 22F, I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year. My boyfriend is a model, he looks extremely androgynous and has longer hair, I don’t mind this at all despite people seeing him as feminine. I see him as beautiful, and him being comfortable with his sexuality and letting me do makeup on him/paint his nails is a bonus. My dad and his girlfriend has met him, they are completely fine and never disrespected him because of the way he looks.

I figured it was time for my boyfriend to meet the family at a birthday party last week because all my cousins already have partners they have introduced. We went and had fun. My boyfriend is social and was able to get along with most of my family just fine, so i thought everything was ok.

I have an oldest cousin who is extremely traditional and obnoxious, we went eating yesterday with my dad and a few other cousins and he started interrogating me on my boyfriend’s sexuality. It was extremely disrespectful, he was making fun of my boyfriend’s hair, his build, his painted nails, his clothes, and even going to the point where he was questioning me on if my boyfriend was even into women. I am not confrontational, especially with family, but this a**hole is f***ing annoying. He was negging me and trying to make my relationship into a joke because my boyfriend isn’t traditionally masculine.

I told him at least my boyfriend wasn’t a fat ugly f**k like him, he isn’t a prize so he should stop speaking. I could’ve gone further below the belt but my cousin shut up and I didn’t want to cause further issues, the fact that he thinks its ok to shame me when his girlfriend isn’t the most attractive person yet I still treated her with nothing but kindness and grace is ridiculous, it’s like he feels entitled to disrespect me because i am the youngest and a woman. When we got home my dad told me not to say anything next time because i already know my cousin is a dumbass and it isn’t worth it, he said he gets that i am mad but to next time let him handle it because i escalated the situation. AITA?