I have been married For 5 years with My wife, who I’ve met nearly 10 years ago.

The thing is, she loves travelling. A Lot. And she loves travelling on the date of her birthday. Last year we went to Maceió, Brazil, and had a great time. In may we had a month long travel to Europe, where we visited some greek island, Athens, a bunch of spanish cities and París.

Her birthday is in a few days and we had some long talks about travelling. Europe left us in debt, and some health issues left us with almost no savings. Alse, we want to have children this year and we need some medical assistance For that, that also costs money. I told her that, maybe this year we cannot aford to travel anywhere, she didn’t like it but she agreed.

But it turns out a few days ago, she snapped. She is now super angry because she is staying Home For her birthday, that it doesn’t matter what we discussed, she never said she don’t wanna travel and that me, as her husband, should know what she wants For her birthday and should have know that she wanted to travel either way and surprised her with some tickets.

I really don’t know how to defuse the situation. I offered to Buy some last minute tickets anywhere but now she doesn’t want because she said I’d just be doing it because she forced me. Am I An a**hole?